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My name is Kayla and I'm 13 years old. I started my period not too long ago. But I have skipped about 3. Is this normal for me? I don't want to be able to not have children or anything? Is it serious? Please help.

Don't worry, you're fine. When most girls start their period they don't have an exact menstrual cycle down yet. So, this means that some people may not get their period for a year. don't worry once you get it you will be able to have kids. Good Luck!

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ive been seeing this guy for about 2 months now and i think our relationship is just based on sexuality and looks... i mean when we first started our relationship we were like awesome friends and we loved to talk all the time and now i feel as if we never talk anymore and he isnt the person i once thougtht he was.. like we never talk anymore and i feel all we do is like make out... i try to read books and see if he is interested in what they have to say and sometimes they have poetry and i leave him sweet notes in his locker but we still like never talk anymore... help!
how do i tell him how to change without looking like im tryin to make him the person i want him to be?

I think you should break up with him. Most relationships eventually loose the feelings that were there when it began. I know it might be hard to break-up with him, but you WILL FIND SOMEONE who has more qualities that you want, than this guy did.
Of course you could always invite him to your house and just talk. Like if he tries to kiss you then just turn away. Eventually he'll get it and ask what's wrong. Then you can tell him that you miss actually talking to him and hopefully he'll make an effort to talk with you more :o)
Good Luck!

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I'm 14-years-old so I'm not looking for my life partner or anything. Well, my friends and even some people I don't know call me shallow because I only go out with guys I think are hott. And it's true but only to a certain point. Yes, I do look at looks first but doesn't everyone? I look at looks and if I think they're attractive then I'll talk to them and such. But I'll only date them if they have a great personality to go along with their looks. Personality can also make a guy hott to me so even if I'd initially think they were ugly but they had a confident, amazing personality I'd think they were hott. And like I said before, it's not like I'm looking for they guy I want to marry right now; I'm just having fun and meeting different guys. Does the way I see that make me shallow? Or is the way I pick the guys I want to go out with wrong?

NOOOOO! you're fine. Thats how most people are. unless they're purposely looking for someone ugly to go out with (which is kinda weird). EVERYONE begins friendships with people (of the opposite sex) b/c they're attracted to them. Don't listen to the people calling you shallow b/c i'm sure that they're the same way! Good Luck Girl!

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okay so who knows of a good pill to clear up your face..i'm talking mild breakouts that are always there..nothing horribly severe but they dont go away.

i don't know the names of any pills...but my brother takes one that is orange and yellow. i don't think you can get them over-the-counter anyway. you should probably go to your dermatologist for a check-up and they will tell you if you need a pill. they will probably prescribe soaps before giving you a pill. you probably don't need a pill unless its really seriously bad acne...like on your face, back, neck, arms, AND chest. if you can't get to the dermatologist try Neutrogena products. they have the best over-the-counter acne stuff you can get. Good Luck!

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my BMI is 16 - underweight. i am 14, 82 pounds, and 5'0. im NOT anorexic - dont want to be anorexic - have never been anorexic. or bulimic for that matter. all i want to do is be a healthy weight..and i dont know how to gain weight! help me please

Wow, you are really thin. But, since you're not anorexic then its probably just your genetic make-up. Eating a lot probably won't help you gain weight, but weight training (lifting) will! if you go to a local YMCA or gym they should have someone there who can teach you how to lift correctly and give you a good routine. By working with weights you might slim down a little at first, but then you will start gaining as your muscles grow! Make sure that you also eat a variety of foods. Try to have at least two servings from each food group everyday (excluding fats and sugars). This should help! Good Luck! :o)

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omgosh i want to be an interior designer. that is going to be my major and i am minoring in physcology...since the way a room is can affect your mood and your outlook. is there any way that you can give me info on state universities with an interior design department?

well, i can't honestly say i know much about interior design schools but this website has the good ones for certain states http://www.allartschools.com/featured/interior.php?src=goo_intdsgn_colleges1

or you can go to http://www.collegesurfing.com/ce/search/?
and click on arts/design and type in your zip code to find a college near you.

i'm sorry i couldn't help you out more with this. but when i went to google i typed in "schools with interior design programs" and a lot of things came ups where you could find a local design school. good luck! i'll be looking for you on trading spaces!

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hey..

I'm a 15 year old girl and I have this big crush on my big brother's best friend.....this guy liked me last year but gave up on me because I didn't want to be more then friends....but since we havent bin talking all that much I'v realised that I really like him alot but I dont think he wants me because I didn't want him last year....how would I go about trying to get him?
thx in advance!

start talking to him again. tell him that you miss talking to him and wish you could spend more time together. then he'll probably get the hint and maybe he'll like you again! :o)
Good Luck!

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i have a question. if you wear skater clothes but you dont skateboard or you used to but not anymore are you considered a poser?

You might be by some people. But people who have the time to judge others are just stupid. They could do something productive but instead they choose to make fun of other peoples clothes.....how IMMATURE! ((SORRY, i ranted :o/))
But who really cares? Skater clothes can be very cute!
Good Luck!

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MY DOG is 12 years old and is suffering from arthritist.and last year he started to eat charcoal and vomiting it out.Do u think this is normal?does your dog do this?

I doubt that's normal. My dog doesn't do it, the only weird thign he eats is veggies. Idk exactly whats wrong with him but i don't think the charcoal gave him arthritis because he threw it back up :o/
Good Luck! Hope you dog feels better!

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ok my best friend is going out with kid and he is younger than her and he is crazy and jumped her brother and pulled a knife out on him and said he was going to kill me and our other friend to but she wont listen to me,.. i tell her to dump him but she said she loves him and i dont no what to do and they had sex and he is two years younger (sorry i cant spell) and they have only bin going out for like three weeks and i dont know what to do PLEASE HELP!!!=(

Unforunately there's nothing you can do. if i were you i would try to distance myself from her because if she's having sex with a guy she's only been dating for three weeks then you probably don't wanna be close friends w/ her.
Good Luck!

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i'm a total pimplehead and i have been for a long time.. like.. um.. since grade 5 i think.. i'm in grade8 now.. i've been using these cleanser things they're getting kinda better but i keep on breaking out.. any tips?? *omg i'm so embaressed asking this.. i need help!!*

I don't know if you've tried this yet, but neutrogena works! like seriously! natural lemon juice (that you squeeze by yourself) works too...just use a q-tip to put it on. pimple's suck...but don't worry everyone gets 'em! Good Luck!

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if you can't get out of the house what are some really good cardio exercises you can do for 30 minutes? is investing in an exercise video a good idea? if soo..which ones?

Well, i don't know much about exercise videos but dance videos will def. get your heart rate up! ever heard of dance dance revolution? its for play station but it is seriously the most fun ever! and you will def. break a sweat after doing it for only 10 minutes! Things you could do w/o a video type thing are: jumping rope, running stairs, brisk walking, jumping jacks, running in place, and push-ups (suprisingly). Good Luck!

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Ok so me and my boyfriend broke up like over 5 months ago and after that things just went downhill with our friendship, i mean i tried staying friends with him n talking to him but he didnt seem to want to. So like over the past week everytime I see him, I always get a hug and he's always talking to me in the halls. Then I was at my friends house and he just randomly showed up. I thought I was over him, since he never talked to me but now that he's talking to me and being all nice, I can't stop thinking about our past. I dont know what to do.

Well, maybe you don't like him, and this is just your reaction to him talking to you. You're probably so excited that he just started talking to you again, so you think you like him. But maybe you do like him...who broke up with who?

But anyway, if you really think you like him you should talk to him about it. If you're getting a lot of hugs then your chances are good! Good Luck!

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I used to like this guy for like 2 yrs. i was soo freaked out that i couldn't even talk to him.(hes a yr older than me)...well then i realized that i had a crush on a completely different guy(3 yrs. older than me) and convinced myself that i didnt like the other one anymore....now me and the 1st guy talk a LOT and its soo cool!! everytime that i talk about my new crush...he either looks away or talks w/ me...i have stopped liking the 2nd guy but i haven't told the first one yet..but my problem is that i never stopped liking the 1st one...and i think he knows....but i dont want to tell him...and loose our releationship.
~Confused

If you tell him you guys may get that relationship that you have wanted...but if you don't then you'll just go on not knowing if you had a chance with him or not. And besides, after you tell him, if he says he doesn't like you then you will most likely move on, and he will realize this so you two can still be friends! i hope that makes sense! Good Luck!

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Sorry this might be long but here it goes. I met this one guy at a party in the 8th grade. Lets call him Joe! So me and Joe really liked each other and everything and we talked alot over the summer. And this year (9th) we went out and broke up but we both had feelings for each other. So me and Joe ended up hooking up and having sex. Also we ended up going to the homecoming dance with me and he saidhe loved me and everything and then after the next few days or so, so I talked to him and was like whats the matter and he said that he didn't like me as anything more than a friend anymore. I was completly devistated because he promised me he would never leave me and that he loved me. And today at the busses we were talking and i asked him for a hug and hes like "Kristen were just friends now..." That hurt me soo much that I cried! I don't know what to do with myself really like this guy and i want to make him see me as more than a friend or find some way to get over him! Please help me! Thanx! Sorry so long...
x0x
KrIsTeN*

This is really sad...Joe was just using you for sex. you should definitely forgot about him and move on. a lot of boys will "promise" to love you forever and never leave you, but they do...and most of your boyfriends will end up leaving you (or you leaving them), no matter what they say...boys lie...that's just their nature....Good Luck!

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Hi you guys... i don't really know where to start. i'm head over heels for one of my best friends (my best guy friend). and i don't know what to do. sometimes, when we're talking and it's late at night, i come so close to telling him, just because i'd like to know if i have a chance. but then part of me is afraid. he has a girlfriend at the moment, and i don't want to ruin anything between them. i found out a few days ago that he used to think we had the potential to be soulmates, that's definitely how i feel. and have felt. i just don't know if he still feels like that and i'm really afraid to ask. so, all wise advice givers, what do i do?

I think you should wait until he doesn't have a girlfriend. This way you don't look bad and it will show your maturity to him. But when they break up, give him a week or two to get over her, then you should def. tell him! I know this may seem like it will take forever...but in the end it will probably be worth it ;)
Good Luck!

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i want to lose 10 lbs in 3 months cuz on my bday i am geting money adn i want to buy clothes but i want to look cute in them i am 118 and i waer size 5 but i am not satisified.oh i am short i am like 5'3 ish.. My question for you is this: A) is that unrealistic? B) anyideas on how i could do that?

thanks a bunch

well, for your height losing 10 pounds would be too much. Five is a healthier goal. Start by cutting out soda and drinking more water, they say you should have 8 glasses a day but start with 5 or 6 and it'll come. Walk around your neigborhood/street for 20-30 min everyday. Weightlifting helps you slim down a lot too. But if you start lifting only do it for a certain time, because after a while you'll get bulky muscles and i'm not sure if that's the look your going for....and if you wanna look really cute in your clothes start doing crunches....your clothes will look better if you don't have a tummy :o) hope i helped! Good Luck!

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is it alright to date a guy that is 3 to 4 year younger than you?

uhmmm, it just depends how old you are. i mean younger guys are kinda gross because they really don't know what they're doing....if he's like 10 and your 14 that's kinda weird...because he's only in like what? 4th grade? uhmmm i think it would be better to date guys this much younger than you until you're about 21....good luck...

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These past 2 years i've been feeling really depressed and its reflecting the way i act towards people now. I feel as if i can't trust anyone, and unpleasant things have been going on. Since 6th grade i've been cutting (im in 8th now). And now, It's like i always want to,and i cant stop, but its gotten to the point to where i dont even know it. I cant concentrate because i've lost most of my friends, and the 2 friends i have now act like they dont even want to be around me. All this anger is built inside of me, and i have no one to talk to about it and so i take it out on myself because i feel like its my fault even though it may not be. Im losing almost everything, and i always feel like my friends talk about me behind my back. I want help, but i want help from people who understand me, and who actually want to listen and care about me, but it seems none of my friends can really fill those needs.

If you know that you're hurting yourself when you cut then don't do it! you need to stop, if not for yourself then for the people who care for you...and i know you can't honestly say that no one cares for you. I know middle school is tough but everyone goes through it and has to experience losing friends and the b*tchy people that go along with it :o/ Look to the future and things will seem brighter :o)
GOod Luck!

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freshman/m i like this girl, but i can't really see us goin out. my friend also likes the same girl. i asked one of my female friends how i could get to know the girl better without being too obvious and she sed to "write her a note and say hey and stuff." but don't u think if i "write her a note just sayin hey and stuff" she will think somethings goin on? i'm not sure i want to let her know that i like her just yet. is there any other way? thx

Talk to her. If your in one of her classes then ask about the homework or something. uhmm, i really can't think of anything else.....but when you talk to her just play it cool and don't flirt if you don't want her to know you like her.
Good Luck!

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