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Real Thing?
Alright, so, as it's probably helpful to know a little info about me, I'm 16, female. And I'm in love, I know it, I can feel it's true just as surely as I know that 2 x 2 = 4. I find myself having a whole new perspective, a whole new outlook, on life. I realize that whatever happens, it's going to be alright, because I'll have someone there by my side who I can trust with anyone, and we can be there for eachother through whatever happens. (btw, Thanks to anyone who answered my previous question, the answers have helped me realize that going to seperate colleges, while tough, is something we can handle.) Now, I know he loves me, and he talks as though whatever happens, we'll always be there for eachother, but am I doing the right thing? I mean, there doesn't seem to be a doubt in my mind about this, or him, or whether this is the real deal. But I feel like I should just step back and take one more look, I mean, I'm 16, and this isn't something that usually happens at this age. Any thoughts?
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I totally understand how you feel..love is a great thing..I guess it depends on howlong y'all have been together and if you really love him..it doesnt matter when you fall in lovve as long as you keep it with you always because if it gets away then it feels like your world has fallen from beneth you..so i say go for it and stay with him..an dit kinda does seem like you have some doubt or this question wouldnt have come up..not being mean..just pointing it out..
hope it all works!!
*Southern Belle*
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well im 17 and i know exactly what your going through. I always thought am i making the right decision saying that i lvoe this man? we havea hd many rough times but its made me realize even more how much im in love with him then i even thought. but i realized i love him and if he loves me we will stay true to each other and wait till were older to get married and we are going to seprate colleges but we promise to go visit each other all the time when ever possible.
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Ava
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You're showing incredible maturity for your age. Whether you're 16 or 60, it's always a good idea to take a step back every now and then and make sure that you're doing the right thing.
If you're both happy with your relationship, then let things continue as they are. Use this time to strengthen your relationship. A problem I see often is couples that have been dating a month before getting separated and then they wonder why it doesn't work.
Good luck with your relationship.
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First of all I don't mean to offend you in any way but i don't care if i do! You sound so gay saying all this crap! "Oh I have no doubt!" I'm only 16 and this dones't happend at this age! It can happen at any age!
*!ClAiR!*
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If you feel like you need to take a look at things, discuss this with your boyfriend. You should be able to confide your doubts in him.
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Ah, love. Interesting thing. The first time I was in love, I just felt some weird feeling, and I knew that it was love, for no apparent reason. Lately, I've got a new love, and I've been looking at people for help about telling her that I like her, but you're in a better case. You two already know that you like each other, so just go through with whatever happens. If you ignore each other, then you'll wind up not being friends. If you stay with each other, you will probably wind up staying together for a long time. Just go with the flow of life, and do what your heart tells you to!
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I know it is young. I was married at 17 and though I have been married 30 years I know this is not real common nowadays. I don't endorse it that's for sure! You will go through many changes during your college years and another bunch after school. So, you just keep working on it if you are serious...and it has to be worked all the time and it is a package deal. If one of you doesn't try anymore its done.
So, that being said, don't rush into anything. But, don't toss it aside either. If you come to a point later on where you just have nothing in common anymore go your separate ways. Until then enjoy what you have and hope it lasts. Stop worrying about what might happen in the future and concentrate on today. Tomorrow will take care of itself. You will be together or grow apart. Depends on how hard you work on it. :)
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This is my opinion on love, if it helps at all:
No one can ever describe love "correctly" or "incorrectly". This is because every person has a different definition of "love". "Love" has many different degrees. It depends on how strong you believe in the word.
Loving someone can mean ANYTHING. You can love someone romantically, or you can love someone as a friend, or as a role model, or as a family member, etc. When you're "in love" it does depend on how you're using it. If you say you love your mom, or family members, of course you're "in love". But most commonly, "in love" is only used for a "lover" or someone you're having a "relationship" with.
Love is when you love that person no matter what. You can't suddenly "fall out of love" with that person. You shouldn't just like this person just because of their looks or something superficial.
This person does NOT make you insecure or self-conscious, they should make you LESS insecure and self-conscious. They should make you feel GOOD about yourself. Not only this, but you should do the SAME for them as well. It's a you-get- and you-give- relationship.
Think about WHY you love this person. Are they good reasons? It helps to look into the future. Is this guy HUSBAND material? If the answer is no, don't bother wasting your time on someone you can't see yourself with.
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I feel the same. And I'm younger, I turn sixteen this December. I feel like I LOVE this guy, and no matter what happens (even if we broke up) I feel I will always love him. I love life now. I feel differently about love and dating. I've even been helping people figure out what love really is. And sometimes I think to myself, maybe I should slow down because I'm still very young and what if this ends in heart break? But I'm past that now because I realized that no matter what I will never regret loving him. He's changed my life. Whether it works out or not, I will always be glad this happened and I will have come out of it as a different person with new experiences. That's important isn't it?
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Well I exactly how you feel because I am around the same age as you and I am in the same position. I don't think that age matters at all and that if you feel this strongly towards someone that you should stay with them because if you let them go then you might not find someone that is as good to you as that person was. It's hard to find someone you love that much and once you have them my advice is to stay with them, and remember that age is only a number.
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Your lucky to have found that at your age. I think that you are doing the right thing. and if along the way you decide you dont want to be tied down with a long distance relationship then end it. But whats the point in taking a step back and then losing everything you have? well thats my advice..
♥ nicole
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