ok i know im not ready to have sex NOW but i dont know if i want to wait until marriage either..i mean what do you guys think?

a part of me says

"hey who knows if your husband will even be a virgin..then its kind of pointless that you waited..and besides if you wait until your married, thats the only guy your going to have sex with .."

then again anothher part of me says "sex would be more special if you waited to have it with your husband"

any input?

Yes, I'm waiting till after marriage.

- You get to avoid all the risks of pregnancy and diseases of sex. There is NO 100% guarantee that you are safe from any risks other than by not having sex. You may know this already, but if you get HIV/AIDS you can NOT be cured from it. Many people with it suffer horribly and die young. You can't exactly "cure" yourself of being pregnant either. If you have a baby before you are stable and have someone dependable by your side, the baby will be your responsibility for LIFE, which will ruin your education, your future, and you won't get to have sex once you're too occupied with a baby. And even if you got an abortion, you will still always have the memory of killing your baby just because you were irresponsible. If you got genital herpes, your sex life in the future will be affected. You can't have sex when you have painful herpes on your genitals can you?
- If you save it for marriage, you wouldn't have to take birth controls in the meantime. Birth controls are not natural. Maybe you're okay with it, but I don't feel comfortable with it. Plus, they don't even give you "full blown birth control" before you're actually an adult because they'd be horrible on your body! They just regulate your period.
- If you save it for marriage, it shows you have respect for yourself and self discipline.
- Also, you are saving it for your spouse...so it's special. Wouldn't you like to give your virginity to the sweetie you're going to marry?
- Just because people think you're in love now doesn't mean it will last forever. I don't think you'd want to have lost your virginity to your ex when you think about it.
- And even if you're not having sex because you "love" someone, but because you just have crazy hormones, is this really what you want to do? Just have sex with anyone because you're horny?
- How will you be able to tell if people love you for you or if they are just using you or staying with you for sex?
- It's kind of nasty to know the person you're going to marry has already banged other people...
- When you marry someone, it should be the person you really LOVE, right? So that would be the perfect person to have sex with. Sex could be the one special thing ONLY you and your husband can share.
- It's true you may gain more sexual knowledge and experience by sleeping around with others, but why can't you and your spouse learn together? If sex in a marriage sucks, you can always learn how to get better together. And if a marriage falls apart just because of sex, it wasn't all that great to begin with.

No one said you had to listen to me, I'm just hoping my advice will help guide you. And even if it doesn't, at least you will be able to see different perspectives of things.